We’ve all had that one employee that we felt like we were just not clicking with! We’ve also had that one employee where we feel like they are the best. We connect with them, we feel great leading them, even when they make mistakes we feel great!
Then there is their counterpart.. the one who shows up late, doesn’t listen, seems like they could care less about what we say and do. We might find ourselves avoiding giving this person feedback or when we do it’s done in a more negative light. We might push this person in meetings because we just know that they are wrong and we are right!
What if we looked at this differently? I know I have talked about different styles of people, this includes how people feel appreciated. You’ve probably heard of love languages but what about appreciation languages? Everyone feels valued differently… some of us want to hear we are doing a good job, or ask if they need help or even be included in projects. For me, hearing that I am doing a good job in a meaningful way is important for me. Others want to feel included or asked if they need help.
Instead of thinking that this person isn’t leadable or makes our life difficult what if we thought about how we can lead them differently? Thinking about what makes them tick, and makes them feel appreciated.
This week think of the one person who just seems to rub you the wrong way, and figure out a way to connect with them. And here’s a really easy way to do it! Start by asking them questions about themselves! It’s easy and I promise you might get some insights!