I am one of those people who just wants to be right! (Ask my family they will confirm this!) However as a leader it becomes a bit of a dicey thing if you push to be right no matter what. Recently I got into a disagreement with a co-worker about something so trivial. However, I ‘knew’ I was right! OK So I was right and she was wrong, BUT what I did by pushing my ‘rightness’ may have harmed a relationship that needs to be cared for.
You see my being right or my being wrong really didn’t matter in the long run. It simply was something that I wanted to win in the moment, however doing so could of caused me to harm the relationship I have with that person. As leaders we have to ask ourselves if this is the hill we want to die on.
You see by asking ourselves how much does this really matter (is this the hill I want to die on) we can really determine if this is something that is really important. Sometimes the answer might be yes, and guess what THAT IS OK! However asking yourself that question gives you a pause to really see if this is a battle you want to win.
I struggle with conflict, so for me I really have to ask the question and then ask again. For me, sometimes it should be a hill I want to die on but I am too afraid of the conflict. In this situation it was something really dumb, and I just wanted to be right, well to be right! (not the hill I was willing to go on)
In your next conflict ask yourself if this is the hill you want to die on!
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